I was chatting with a girlfriend recently. She was talking about an ex-beau and she talked about holding him hostage.
She went on to say that she had manipulated and controlled him so that he would do what she wanted. This worked for a while, until he mutinied and and left.
That got me thinking about my relationships. I know that I have been with men that were so wonderful that they couldn't possibly love me. I ended up doing crazy things like driving around town looking for them, I made myself so helpful that they needed me, I even loaned money and gave it all away to them.
"After all I had done for them" I figured they had to stay with me forever! Somehow, none of them did.
There is a lot of truth in the saying; "If you can't disagree with someone, you can't have a relationship with them". A functional relationship allows room for honesty and trust.
How does your relationship stack up? Is there room for total honesty? Have you ever taken a hostage?
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